“I would encourage anyone to adopt, the road ahead is not for the faint of heart but the journey is worth the reward!” – Jane
Jane, a single adopter, is sharing her journey of discovery, challenge, support and growth for her and her family, in welcoming her daughter to her life.
As a single adopter the process of making the initial phone call was a little bit daunting “will they want me?” “Am I enough?” “Will I cope with a child on my own?” were all questions I kept asking myself over and over. - Jane
Jane’s Dad had some doubts about her adopting alone, and how he would bond with his adopted grandchild, but they were soon swept away.
“I saw the process that had to be followed, the training offered to my daughter and the positive impact it has had on our life as well as our granddaughter. I was worried that we wouldn’t have the connection we have due to the fact she was adopted and if I am honest in some respects its stronger because of this and it makes her even more special. We have a chance to change her path and give her an amazing life as part of a close family.” – Jane’s Dad
Jane quickly developed a strong relationship with her social worker and felt valued for all that she could offer a child as a single person. The reflection of her own life, childhood and experiences helped to see what shaped her as an adult and the kind of parent she wanted to be.
“Being a single adopter at times was a blessing and a curse – I could do things in my own time, didn’t have to agree with someone else’s timeline or opinions but also then didn’t have someone to discuss the process with. It was nice to make links with other single adopters throughout the training process and was good to know they felt the same way.” - Jane
As soon as Jane saw her daughter’s profile, she felt ‘this is it’.
The first few weeks were filled with first experiences, getting to know each other, learning routines, developing new ones and also dealing with the overwhelming responsibilities as a single parent.
It wasn’t all easy; “There were times when I second guessed myself, doubted my life choices and winged my way through days – however this is the same for all parents! I made sure my support network was strong and depended on them, sometimes just to use as a sounding board, advice givers, cleaners or just to have a moment to put the laundry away.”- Jane
Life soon became the new normal, and everyone has been able to see the incredible bond that Jane and her daughter have. She said “My heart swells when people say ‘she’s just like her mummy’ or ‘she takes after you’ as I can see the impact our life together and our experiences are beginning to shape a little human who is confident to take risks knowing I’ll be there. I also love watching her with our family members grandparents, aunties, uncles, cousins and many more – everyone has accepted her and never ever questions where she belongs.”
Jane’s Dad added “Anyone worrying about adoption and worrying about how you will feel about this child – the love just happens when you see your child become the parent they want to be. The bond that she has with her mummy couldn’t be stronger and she is thriving – trust the process, its different but the end result is amazing.”
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This is an anonymous adopter. The name has been changed for confidentiality.